10 Ideas: Making Time For Your Spouse


The following 10 ideas can help each of us intentionally make time for our spouse:

  1. Cultivate common interest.Your spouse should be your best friend, and friends enjoy spending time with one another. If you and your spouse have different hobbies, find something that you both enjoy doing and do it together. You may want to go bike riding, walk together at the end of a long day, play tennis, or play a game together.
  2. Go on weekly dates.If you don’t have a relative nearby who would gladly watch your children, then consider swapping babysitting with a friend on a regular basis.
  3. Try new adventures together.If you and your spouse would like to do something a little more daring, consider activities such as motorcycle riding, overnight camping trips, mountain climbing, attend a Broadway musical, etc. These adventures have a way of knitting  you and your spouse together.
  4. Write love letters to one another and read them over a romantic dinner.Express your love to your spouse in a way you have never done before. Then read it to your spouse over a romantic dinner.
  5. Go on overnight getaways – without the children.The possibilities are endless. Many state parks have great campsites and beautiful lodges. Staying at a nearby bed and breakfast can be a real treat. Hotels often have special weekend getaway packages. It is worth the time and money spent to do this. What wonderful fruit it brings to your marriage.
  6. Set aside regular time to talk with one another – without any distractions. Make time to focus on one another and talk about the day’s and week’s events. It may be 10-15 minutes before or after dinner each evening. The important thing is sharing heart-to-heart and face-to-face.
  7. Read a book on how to make your marriage better.It could be the same book or a book for the wife on being a helper to her husband or a book for the husband on being a leader for his wife. Take time to talk about with each other what you learned from the book.
  8. Be accountable to one another.Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 tells us, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion.” Your spouse can “bring you back to earth” and help you establish a more balanced schedule. Accountability gives your spouse free access to your life and share honestly with you without fear of being rejected or criticized.
  9. Pray together.When we regularly pray with our spouse, our souls and hearts are uniquely knit together. Spend time thanking the Lord for all your spouse has done for you. Ask God to help you be for spouse all you can be.
  10. Be involved together in serving the Lord in your local congregation. Be like Aquila and Priscilla. Do your work together for the Lord (i.e., visit, study, teach, etc.). The church needs to see you together serving the Lord in love.